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Hi there and welcome to another week of reading what I love to do best, and that is putting down my thoughts into words. To be candid it definitely makes me feel elated and utmost thankful, maybe this is because expressing myself has always made me feel confident and peerless, or it simply shows that I’m not afraid to take a stand, say how I feel, and pay absolutely no attention to negative perceptions. Now talking about confidence and expression in accordance to the topic, last week in the previous article, I explained what insecurity is, and the huge effect it has on our lives, especially those of us who are budding young adults.
It is without question that our appearance matters a lot in our everyday lives, and as we all know it is a major factor in building self confidence, personality and in most cases our behavioral pattern and even the way we treat others. But just how far are we willing to go to attain the type of appearance we desire? Last week Karen Igho shared with us her open opinion on insecurity and appearance, and why she got herself a pair of new £4000 DD breast implants, she remains happy with her decision, because to her it is worth it all the way. This week 22 year old Tee jay Osuhor, a student of the American University of Nigeria majoring in information systems tells us his opinion on what it really takes to build self confidence.
TEEJAY OSUHOR: “appearance matters a lot especially in today’s world, and it feels good to look good but we also have to understand that our appearance is just a part of our lifestyle, and there are equally other important factors that also help define us as person. If we pay so much attention on the outside, then what happens to what is on the inside like our character and the way we commune with others? I really don’t see it necessary to go under the knife to look good, it is in fact a way of telling God that you don’t appreciate your body, and the way you are created. To be frank we can’t cheat nature and remain young forever, because with time we age and get to a point where we can’t have any more surgeries, so why don’t we pay more attention to what is on the inside, because that is a part that will always remain with us, a part that surgery can’t fix and no one can take and repair except us. We don’t have to make the perfect appearance to be self confident and build our self esteem, I personally think insecurity comes from within and not from the outside.”
- Steph Attahiru
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Okay, so let me first of all put in plain words what I identify insecurity as. According to my terms, insecurity means lack of confidence or assurance, which is also known as self doubt or being uncertain of your personality, exterior, and the perception people have about you, which of course will determine your level of self esteem. It is without question that appearance is the first thing to be noticed about ourselves whenever walk into a place or meet people for the first time, that is why I personally think it is one of the most important rudiments in a person’s lifestyle. It has happened and will continue to happen to all of us in our everyday lives, we all go out looking our best, be it at work or in school, in our social lives or even among close family and friends we always try our best to be cool and just fit in.
So what exactly does it take to be cool, to look good and be at our best at all times? In a world that is so concerned with appearances and allure I go into the lives of two brilliant exceptional youths who have diverse views on their various opinions and individual ideas concerning the 21’st century appearance, self esteem and personality.
First up is Karen igho, a 24 year old model and reality TV star. Born in Jos, Nigeria she has lived most of her life in the UK and is now a graduate of Southwark College where she studied theater arts. Karen opens up and talks about her new £4000 DD breast implants she got for herself for Christmas, and how it has helped boost her appearance and confidence.
KAREN IGHO: “It is the 21’st century and jet age, things are not as banal as they used to be. It is like getting a Prada purse or buying a house, it makes you happy so you invest in it right? I do not believe I have to be 40 with four kids and sagging breasts before I can get my dream boobs. I am proud I am able to get the body I desire at 23, because it is worth it and the most important thing is that I am happy about it. I am a confident girl with or without the boobs, but I needed cleavage and to feel more curvaceous. I totally feel comfortable now and sexy with myself, and am ready to conquer the modeling industry. I did a research on it, before I made up my mind to get them, we must understand that in life everything has its risks, and I know my new body will take ma a long way.”
I must say that is a really bold and incredible step to improve an appearance. From Karen’s perspective, it is clear that she had the breast implants done to make herself happy and go ahead in her carrier. I personally think it is worth it all the way and if you have the opportunity to turn a lifelong dream into reality why not go ahead and do so. Who are we kidding it is the 21’st century and far gone are the days when it was almost impossible the get the kind of body we want, and build the appearance we desire. If you were not born with it, and you can afford it, then go buy it because… to be continued..
Stephanie Attahiru’s scrambles down her heart in text on her weekly column - Forever Young. Steph’s FY column would chronicle the ramblings that take place among the young and young at heart - Steph is unapologetic, personal and fierce. She also wants to read from you – drop a comment / email steph.attahiru@questionmarkmag.com
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Is the world really enough? No, seriously is there ever going to be a time when researchers would call it ‘a wrap !’ because nothing more than what already is known can be established? The whole evaluation just seems unending, so much so that when I look at the impressiveness of a gadget, a building, a pair of shoes or even a piece of clothing, I think that has got to be the peak of it all. Well, it only takes a little while before I realize just how wrong I thought.
What baffles me the most is definitely not the change and improvement of material things, but the length at which people go to get them. Yes, everyone wants to live comfortably with satisfaction, but I think it gets a little more than comfort, and after satisfaction is met, it turns to greed and that’s the beginning of the whole predicament. Everyone wants to ‘feel among’, and ‘belong’ to whatever the newest trend is in vogue, okay so you seem to be the only one among your friends without a blackberry torch, not like you don’t already own a blackberry, and this is something you know you cannot afford, so you begin to stab classes looking for money from any and everywhere, and the loans start piling up without even the slightest idea of how you are going to pay back. To me, that is just the height of stupidity and plain weakness.
Trust me, I have been there and I understand what it feels like to be left using an old version for a long time, while others advance onto better ones, but the truth is I cannot and I refuse to kill myself over something that would soon become nothing. Don’t get me wrong, I love go getters because I am one, it inspires me to see young guys, especially girls of my age fraction hustle to get what they want, but not in the wrong way. I believe that if you want something so bad, you should sweat honestly for it. I know that there is so much pressure all around, especially on the youth from friends, in school, and even sometimes from our family, but that should not push us to do things we are not proud of to just to satisfy our unending needs. There is no rush in life, after all with time the price of a blackberry torch will diminish, and even better models will be made.
The world is ours to conquer, and as youths we have not even seen half of it yet, we should focus more on our inner transformation to become better people, and not only on the outside. So why waste time rushing into something, or getting involved in activities we would only spend the rest of our lives regretting. Even the holy book asks’ of what use is a man if he loses his soul and gains the world?’ that is enough to say that nothing in this world is to worth loosing ones soul over, or even going to the extreme. If it was, then please tell me will the world really be enough?.
Steph Attahiru – steph@questionmarkmag.com
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After a frantic day from all the hustling and struggling, trying to beat the long irritating traffic with all the other annoying impatient folks who always seem to have no morsel of manners, the rays of the scorching sun smoldering right into my 3 piece suit, and my MAKE UP!!! O my God, this is the worst part. The peak of my frustration is when the 20 minutes art of perfection I had on my face is being wiped off by the increasing intensity of sweat bucketing down my face, and all that is packaged on a pair of tiny feet walking in six inches.
When all that is over, and I lay on my bed waiting for nature to take its course, just after I give my thanks to God for yet another day, I wonder what life would be like, if I did not have to go through all of that mayhem every working day. You know, like if I did not have to wake up so early to get ready, and how much more comfortable it will be if I could relax at the back of the latest Mercedes and have a chauffeur drop me wherever I want, with the air condition blowing in full, and I am humming to a Rihanna album, then I won’t have to worry about getting my make up smudged. But all that is just a splinter of the many wishes that go through my little head. In a few hours my alarm rings, and I am up for another hectic day. Yes I don’t have all of those things I always dream about, but that doesn’t stop me from being content, working hard and keeping a positive mind.
It is just crazy how extreme people go to make money, especially the youth. Most of them really don’t care about going to or settling down to finish school anymore, even some of those who are born with ‘silver spoons’ don’t have the patience to wait, graduate and work for a living. Everyone wants the fastest way out, but we forget that easy come, easy go and every material thing really is ephemeral and all vanity. Isn’t it comical how the latest, coolest and most expensive gadgets and accessories of today tend to make little or no sense after a period of time? More and more stuffs keep coming out, better technology than the last is invented, the must have list keeps on going up, and this completely leaves me in awe, and I ask myself IS THE WORLD REALLY ENOUGH?
By Steph Attahiru
Stephanie Attahiru’s scrambles down her heart in text on her weekly column - Forever Young. Steph’s FY column would chronicle the ramblings that take place among the young and young at heart - Steph is unapologetic, personal and fierce. She also wants to read from you – drop a comment / email steph.attahiru@questionmarkmag.com
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…But for how long am I going to keep living like this, I was created for something more, for a greater purpose on earth, and here I am wasting my life, wallowing in the very pain and shame I have created with my own hands. I am not asking for pity or sympathy, I know everyone has a right to his or her own opinion, but who are you to judge me when you do not know half of what I have been through, and cannot even walk a mile in my heels.
I believe that there are thousands of young gifted youths today who are out there going through the same observable facts as I am, and it is not just with the alcohol alone, there are those who are caught up in sex addictions, smokers who can’t quit, drug users who cannot help it, all fighting hard day by day to get out of the prison they have built inside, praying and looking for help to overcome their various addictions only to find out that it only gets worse, because in as much as they succumb to the desires of the flesh, they also very well know that they are causing more harm than good.
We are only humans, and we all know that it is only natural for us to make mistakes, but we should also have it in mind that no mistake is too great to recover from and get back up and that is what differentiates the weak from the strong . Deep down inside, I know that we can fight these addictions and overcome it for good. Yeah easier said than done right? True, I don’t know about you, but as for me I am not going to let the alcohol get the best part of me further than this, it is time to break the prison I created. I can’t hide from the truth forever, the clock is ticking and it’s time to realize that I am not getting any younger.
Fact is life aint easy, and many times we look for routes of escape from all the drama so we pretty much depend on anything we feel could easily mask the discomfort, pressure and pain. But the better escape route is to accept your addiction, admit your fault, and understand that whatever pushed you into the situation you find yourself in shouldn’t be a reason to lay blames on or hold back your true freedom. Sincerely and honestly avoid whatever kills you, know that you are not alone and you are not different from those who have been there, done that and have put the past behind them now living healthy and better lives. I know it’s really going to be hard, probably one of the most difficult things you have had to do, so whenever the urge comes up, remember that your abstaining to help no one but yourself. The choice is solely YOURS.
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Stephanie Attahiru’s scrambles down her heart in text on her weekly column - Forever Young. Steph’s FY column would chronicle the ramblings that take place among the young and young at heart - Steph is unapologetic, personal and fierce. She also wants to read from you – drop a comment / email steph.attahiru@questionmarkmag.com
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Its yet another Friday and am done with classes for the week, as I take off my shoes and let my hair down I’ve got just one thing on my mind after a long stressful day of juggling 4 classes…vodka and ice. It may not be the best way to relax the brain after a 95 minutes calculus class, but it works perfectly for me. Problem is I have no control once I start drinking, and many a times it gets a little crazy…and I mean uncontrollably crazy. My sad addiction started as a once in a while thing, and at first I did not see anything wrong with ‘cooling off’, in fact I actually thought I needed it, till it became a daily thing, and I kept telling myself I could control it. Suddenly the alcohol is controlling me and for a good four years and counting, I just can’t help but give my flesh what it wants.
I have become a prisoner in my own flesh because I cannot abstain from what I know is gradually killing me inside, each day I use my own hands to destroy my very own body being fully aware of the consequences I bring upon myself, but what can I do?. Thing is, each time I drink it feels different and better than the last time, I feel renewed and alive like it’s the best feeling ever, and then I get drunk and misbehave, messed up and sober then the feelings change to regret and pain. I tell myself that am done with making myself miserable, destroying my kidney, hurting those who care for me and ‘falling my hand’ in public, that it’s going to be the last time and never again…but it is only a short while before am back to first base.
Looks crazy right, like what the hell is wrong with me? You would think that at 21 am old enough to know what is right and wrong for me. But who cares? It’s my life, am living it and I can do just as I please with it, after all no one is perfect and we will all get judged someday, right now am about whatever, I really couldn’t care any less because I feel drawn too deep into the alcohol to let go now, but… tbc….
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Many would read that question and probably think twice before settling for an answer, or even not settle for one. Well the fact is a university degree is important in being successful, but it is not a priority for achieving success. Don’t get me wrong, a first degree is an admirable thing, a thing of pride for anyone who attains it, it is a lifetime certificate that no one can take from you, but come on we all know that not all fingers are equal just as the ambition of every individual varies.
When I was 5, I wanted to grow up and become a Disney princess, at age 13 a musical artist and performer, but now I wish I could just stay in bed all day and get paid for that, sad thing is I can’t, so I choose to go to school to learn, gain knowledge and acquire skills. But all for what exactly? There are different levels to which a person can be educated, with different degrees to be acquired outside the university degree, but this depends on your field of study, and if you choose to end up with a white collar job.
We all know that knowledge is power, and the more degrees you acquire, the broader it expands your chances of a getting a good job and aiming higher in the professional sector, however we can’t say that there are no successful people in our society today without a university degree. This shows that although a university degree is important, it is not engraved in life that education equals future success.
I personally believe that being successful is discovering your God given talent, establishing it, and working on it for the benefit of yourself and others. Be it in an office, on the field, in front of the camera or on the runway, being a success in life has much more to do than just having a university degree especially for those born without a silver spoon. It all really has to do with YOU.
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Stephanie Attahiru’s scrambles down her heart in text on her weekly column - Forever Young. Stepha’s FY column would chronicle the ramblings that take place among the young and young at heart - Steph is unapologetic, personal and fierce. She also wants to read from you – drop a comment / email steph.attahiru@questionmarkmag.com