Kelly Hansome & D'banj

Undoubted, He is one of Nigeria’s finest musician and producer, maybe too controversial but his talent cannot be undermined. In this rare interview with Augustine Ogwo, Kelly Hansome opens up on the Kelly Vs Mo’hits Police case, his music, the recent accusations made against him and more. This interview is nothing but revealing. Enjoy after the cut.

Kelly, where have you been?
Been underground hustling, trying to double my money and strengthen my entertainment business connect. Also been tirelessly and creatively working on timeless hit songs. Little investments here and there.

Can you let us in a bit on your educational background?
I studied Computer Science at Madonna University, Okija.

You are known as a peace ambassador, how do you reconcile that with the controversies which have trailed your career?
Guess it comes with success and fame, little things become big things, haters and critics multiply as well as friends, well wishers and fans. Even Michael Jackson who spent all his life trying to heal the world world with his music and money had a lot of controversies, to mention but a few. As you’re over there planning and working hard to succeed, someone else is over there planning your failure. I am only human so I can’t please everyone.

In the recent past, you did a wonderful song, ‘Jesus is My Iroko’. How religious is Kelly Hansome?
I come from a strong catholic background but I do not segregate when it comes to religion cos there are countless gods but is only one true GOD who is, was, and forever will be. In him alone I trust.

You have been dropping singles intermittently; however your fans seem to be wanting more and more. Do you have any new album in the offing?
Yeah but like Dr. Dre would say, taking my time to perfect the beat. I’m on it.

Some months ago, it was reported that Mo’hits Records filed a legal suit against you over the use of the ‘Feeling Good’ beat originally employed by 2face and D’banj. What was the true story?
Well, they invited me over to a police station and like every responsible citizen I went over there with my Lawyer and we resolved the issue even though they handled it foolishly like coming with some old poorly dressed lawyer who claimed to be a SAN while he was an ordinary charge and bail lawyer. They published in the papers that I was arrested and bailed myself with 800 thousand Naira which was false because in the very first place, bail is FREE in Nigeria. When the matter got to the powers that be, they requested that everyone who was involved in that case report to the headquarters since the papers said I paid to bail myself. Guess they were trying to create the impression that they really dealt with me but eventually got themselves into bigger trouble which would have cost the innocent police boss in charge of the police station his job before he pleaded that I should go on radio and tell everyone that I was never arrested and charged for bail. When Jazzy saw the direction the case was going, he quickly opened up to say they never arrested me and bla bla bla. He and one of his girlfriend had previously set me up with a stolen laptop which landed me in SARS Abuja but God vindicated me after-all. There are lots of dirty untold stories that the public do not know about and I won’t want to go into right now but all I have to say is, the people you respect and see as clean might be the riding dirtier than you can ever imagine. Time will tell the rest.

Being a top notch producer, what’s your favourite instrument?
I love the DRUMs.

I belong to your very large fan-base, any plans for a fan club?
I have one on Facebook (Kelly Hansome Fanclub) and I am working on something bigger and better. I love my fans and I remain loyal to them.

Talking about club, which football club do you support?
Arsenal, I’m a GUNNER for Life!

Can you tell us one strange fact about the brand Kelly Hansome?
One strange fact about Kelly Hansome is that till date he has not received a single cheque from his ‘MAGA DON PAY’ album. Funny huh? (laughs)

The embattled reporter

It was largely reported by a section of the media that you beat up a press man for publishing filthy news about you. What’s your take on this?
There was no such thing as beating him up. I don’t take laws into my hand.

If you must feature just one Nigerian musician on your album, who will that be and why?
9ice, he is deep and Original. He is to the Yorubas what I am to the Igbos…

What’s your favourite drink?
Fresh pineapple juice.

Let’s say reincarnation exists, which female celebrity would you reincarnate as?
Enya.

How do you think the piracy scourge can be curtailed?
I think the first step is for the piracy and copyright laws should be strengthened and the government should invest in entertainment, set up an active and credible anti piracy task force to monitor marketers, arrest and prosecute those involved in PIRACY.

So many young musicians are cropping up every second, what advice do you have for them?
Keep your head up, believe in God and your talent then always remember that it’s not just about the music but the business as well so don’t sign any dotted lines without consulting a lawyer, no matter how excited or lucky or frustrated you feel to avoid regrets.

Where do you see Kelly in a decade?
Echi di Ime’ (Time will tell.)

Thanks for your time.

In other gist, Marcus Chuks the embattled reporter (from Entertainment Now) who was allegedly beat up by Kelly Hansome says that no such thing transpired. He had earlier reported that Kelly Hansome was seen at a function begging movie producers for roles. He commended Kelly for showing so much maturity and appears to be apologizing to Kelly. Kelly Hansome also says that sites like Talkofnaija, Naijapals, Nigerianfilms shouldn’t be taken seriously. He is very bitter that reporters drop news items without investigating properly.

Don J & D'banj

In an exclusive telephone interview with Ascology News, Don Jazzy started off by saying he never wanted the issue to become this messy, even as he was aware of the way and manner social media has changed the way people view issue surrounding the lives of celebrities; a reason he said was why he’s always cautious of what he says and the interviews he grants to the media.

Both industry power-weights have been at loggerhead over alleged multiple financial disagreements, discrepancies involved in the signing of artist Dbanj into Kanye West’s Good Music record label, Don Jazzy’s lackadaisical attitude, Dbanj’s alleged public irresponsibility among other differences and conflicts that popped up between both.

“I want to be clear on something that I’m not interested in going into the debates of whatever Dbanj has said, be it through an interview, the press, social media or whatever. People should try and understand that these are very difficult moments for me and I need my space, time and moment to carry on with my life and the production of good music which is what fans have known me for a very long time”. Don Jazzy said.

The iconic producer, whose famous introvert and quiet lifestyle and personality as garnered him an enviable amount of fame, respect and magnanimous swag in Nigeria’s entertainment scene, staunchly dismissed claims by Dbanj buying houses, cars and properties for the Mo’hits boss and fellow artists, calling it “laughable and not worth responding to this early morning” claiming that quick thinking fans know his individual worth and personal financial worth of each artist at Mo’hits.

The Mo’hits boss was however very cautious and even more diplomatic in blaming, accusing or countering accusations attributed to Dbanj in various interviews, saying many of those things could not have been said by the Dbanj and he isn’t surprised when Dbanj claimed his accounts were hacked and also not further surprised when his (Dbanj) publicist released a statement denying some of the statements attributed to him; specifically during the interview with Ebony Magazine that Dbanj owns Mo’hits. Incidentally, Ebony Magazine are yet to release a public apology as earlier released by D’banj’s personal manager and the ‘I own mohits’ part of the interveiew still not excluded as of filing this report.

The Mo’hits boss further said in the unlikely event he decides to let the public knows his own side of the story, there is the tendency for his statements to be misconstrued and manipulated by mischief makers who he blamed use few accurate information to manipulate the public into believing things that never existed (a hint that the alleged email exchange is partially true or totally untrue); an ironical situation he hinted would force him to rather keep mute on the issue and let it die a natural death.

“When this whole thing started, I felt people needed to know what’s happening and in all civility, maturity and wisdom, I made those less than 140 words tweet in 3 separate lines, now see where it has led me to. Mohits is a family and Dbanj is like its son and families do quarell. Expecting me to come out and start countering accusations by one of my best friends ever while accusing him also in the process doesn’t justify my guilt or my innocence or that of his, He (Dbanj) however has a right to his opinion to grant interviews to whoever he wishes to grant interview to, I won’t stop him and won’t stop anyone who wants to believe whatever he says either”, he said.

In further attempts to get the Mo’hits boss talking, he was adamant but rightly so, reminding us of how those famous tweets confirming an apparent rift in the Mohits house got him into the messy situation as we see today.

“It is with a heavy heart that I announce the end of a long era and the beginning of a new one..Some of the rumours you have all heard recently are sad but true…The way forward now is to make sure I keep bringing you guys more of the beautiful music y’all love to dance to….And to end d old era I will b donating the proceeds of my production catalogue from day one till date to five charity organizations. Thanks. IDJA”

“Really, if I start responding to every single accusation, then the ‘lazy’ person I’ve been called would come out, and the ‘Fake’ person I am according to critics would obviously come out since I’m not a talkative and you the media know that, I want the handwork of my music productions and the proceeds of good music at Mo’hits to speak for itself, so asking me to comment on issues like this, I really am not just interested, personally my advice to fans is to concentrate on good music from Mo’hits and huhh….well even from Dbanj himself, music is what we were made to create and not controversies”, he added.

It was not immediately clear the positions of other artists at the Mohits house at the time of filing the report as label members Wande Coal, Dr Sid and D’Prince have all been short of economical with their opinions on the rift between their bosses.

As for Wande Coal who in an although diplomatic, yet paradoxically intended tweet to Dbanj said “God please don’t let the success you have given me get to my head to the extent that I will forget my humble beginnings”; the artist has however deleted the tweet shortly after – another debatable scenario which Dbanj sarcastically accused Don Jazzy of personally tweeting.

The multi-award winning music producer however said he wishes artist, Dbanj all the best in all he aspires to do even as he (Don Jazzy) begins a rebuilding, restructuring process.

Bamidele Ashigbin, Ascology

2Face and I at the Murtala Muhammed International Airport, circa 2008

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eLDee kicks off his Undeniable Tour in Accra on the 5th Of May at the dome Conference centre, Accra. He will be performing on stage alongside some of the best musical acts in West africa including Wizkid, Sarkodie, Dr Sid, R2Bees, Sheyman and many more. The tour is set to promote his upcoming 5th Studio album “Undeniable” that is set to hit the shelves later this month.

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What happens when you get a STD from your partner?

A reader shares a story.

My live-in boyfriend and I had been together almost two years. Although he was on a six-month deployment to the Philippines, the relationship felt solid, and when I learned he would be home for a three day weekend mid-deployment, I was overjoyed.

We had a fantastic visit and lost no opportunity to make up for lost time in the bedroom. But about three days after he left, I started feeling strange. It felt as if my vagina was literally on fire, and obviously, I knew something was terribly wrong. The pain became unbearable and I went to see the doctor to get treated. Unfortunately, part of the treatment was a lesson in brutal honesty. I’ll never forget her face when she said she would send the skin samples to the lab but she was certain it would be positive for herpes. At that moment I wasn’t sure which was worse: the feeling of impending doom as I waited for confirmation that I had an STD, or the lingering pain from having my insides scraped to acquire the lab samples.

I was given oral medications and creams along with instructions, and was told my name would be reported to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC). They gave me pamphlets that clearly spelled out the facts, and I was questioned about any other sexual partners he or I may have had. I assured her I had not been with anyone else and we were in a committed relationship, so I was sure he had not been either. She almost shouted when she told me that my boyfriend had most definitely cheated on me. She said the symptoms are usually only this bad with the first outbreak and he must have had an active outbreak to spread it to me. 10 Things You Should Know About Herpes

Outbreak?

Outbreak. It was a term I would come to know well over the coming months.

As soon as I hit the apartment door, I ran for the phone. He denied having an STD. He denied cheating. He refused to seek treatment with the military doctor for fear it would go in his records. I couldn’t believe it. Later he admitted that he had experienced blisters on his penis before but thought it was just from rough sex. Now he tells me.

I wanted to believe him and tried to put the whole thing behind me, but I couldn’t totally trust him. There were other signs of cheating, but I felt I was a broken woman; who would want to be with me now that I had an incurable STD? So an unhealthy relationship became an unhealthy marriage, and we later divorced. Then came the depression. I was resigned to the fact that I would probably be alone the rest of my life because of this disease.

I didn’t date much after my divorce. I buried myself in my work. When I looked in the mirror I saw a marked woman: a big red H around my neck for herpes. I couldn’t bear the thought of telling someone I had an STD. What if we broke up and he told people my secret? I was too embarrassed to even tell my friends. When is it the right time to tell someone you have an STD?

I worried about everything and played all the scenarios out in my head. If I fell for someone, I was sure he would dump me as soon as I told him about the STD. If he didn’t and we stayed together, I might not be able to deliver children vaginally, and would have to explain the need for a c-section to friends and family. I just wanted to bury myself in the sand and forget about the whole thing, but it was impossible. I had outbreaks when my period came. I had outbreaks when I was stressed. I had outbreaks at the most inopportune times. I thought I’d never lead a normal life again.

Then after eight years, I met the most wonderful man I’ve ever known. I knew I would have to tell him before we were intimate; I needed to let him choose whether he wanted to risk getting infected. He seemed like a great guy but I couldn’t blame him if he didn’t want to take the relationship any further. I took a deep breath and finally gathered enough courage to spit out the words. His reaction? “Is that it? That’s what you were worried about telling me?” I thought he must not have understood me, so I explained that there is no cure for this. He told me that he wasn’t concerned about it, he only cared about me. He’s an amazing man and I’m proud to call him the love of my life. We’re now married and I take preventative medicine to reduce the risk of outbreaks. He’s still STD free. And we’re both madly in love.

What would you do, if it was you?

My thumbs were aching from putting together a good show on my Sony Play Station for my nemesis and nephew, but I was more preoccupied with my role in his life. We are not related by blood, but nothing about Africa was more accurate than De Bois’ statement ‘It takes a village to raise a child’. As a matter of fact, I was not on speaking terms with his father. He was a man who on every occasion reminded me that I was in deeply in love with his wife when he showed up on the scene and married her. He never had to say anything. It just took looking at his face for more than 3 minutes to trigger me (he doesn’t know that we’re not on speaking terms). It didn’t help that I liked the boy more than he did. But I braved the boy’s presence because he had a good heart and he was close to me. He has always wanted to be near me since he could crawl.

When he became a teenager, I had become more distant but he always made time to visit me. I understood him and he knew it. So I was always a ready listening ear armed with a new Play Station game for a pleasant distraction, as well as the skills and the nature of a graceful loser. It was turbulent in his home, his parents were cursing each other out in front of him over who did what and he kind of talked about it then shrugged it off when he would beat me. Defeat never served a more noble purpose.

He had just turned 15 and was going through the long hours of sleep due to his expected spurt of growth. It was a time when his father would compare him to a sloth in a coma. He took a lot of abuse, but to his credit, he never let it get him down for too long. Today was different and I knew as soon as he suddenly paused our game, put down his joy-pad to face me and say, “I think he hates me.”

I sat up suddenly like he shot at me. I picked up his glass of coke, held it to the light and put it down with the heavy consideration of my best Sherlock Holmes impersonation.

“Okay, I can confirm there are no psychotropic sediments in your drink. What led to this discovery?”

He gave me a faint smile which became so serious he suddenly seemed twice his age.

“He has never said a kind word to me…”

“He said you were a beautiful baby.”

“Recently. I mean recently. I am mature enough to understand the point of discipline, but this last week was the last straw. He dropped me off at school and said that I was dressed scruffily. That if he had been paying attention, he would have told me to take public transport to school.”

I mused a bit before asking, “So his statement was the last straw.”

“I’m getting to it. So I told him that it won’t be a problem. I can always find my own way to school. I turned to walk into the school gates when he got down from the car and slapped me for my ‘insolence’.”

I winced visibly for effect, but on the inside I was worried about their relationship. The boy was not meant to be dominated but cultured. He was not arrogant (for his age), he had good grades (comparatively), and like him, I was a late-bloomer. He was going to delay the boy’s blooming another decade if he kept up this behaviour.

“Ok. What made this incident stand out?”

“It is a culmination of…”

“Wait! Do you know what culmination means?”

“Yes.”

“Prove it. Use a simpler word. I am not an SAT examiner.”

“It has been a series of events leading up to this.”

We both smiled at the levity that I had brought into the situation, but he always knew I take him seriously.

“Alright. What else has he been saying and doing?”

“He has been calling me lazy, stupid, an idiotic son of an idiotic mother…”

He looked at me for a reaction, but I had none to give. I took a sip of my cup of herbal tea. The peppermint settles my stomach.

“He has been slapping me to get my attention, to complain about how I do things, mine and his things…last week I grabbed his wrist when he tried to use his belt on me.”

In Nigeria, a child does not do that, an adult does that. It is a coming of age move that is both instinct and action. It awakens both parties to the fact that things will never be the same again.

“What did he do?”

“He gave me a punch to the ribs.”

“Did it hurt?”

“No.”

He was lying, but I gave him the room to be a man about it and rewrite that part of his personal history. He moved about gingerly in my apartment last week and wanted to lie down on my couch and watch action movie classics. We had a debate about how toughness is related to size. I told him the toughest people in the world don’t look tough at all. He called me out on that, claiming that he recognises that people who work in the abusive work environments in Nigeria are tough, but he meant the physically tough people. I corrected his impression and told him I meant the invasion force of the North Korean Army, adding that they can punch through a man when they have to. He didn’t want to believe me, but he knew I would never lie to him.

“So, your father has decided to turn up the ante…”

“Wait! Do you know what ante means?”

I thought well before I replied, “Do you?”

“Let’s pretend I don’t.”

Sometimes when I look back, I think I had formed him into my image while his dad was trying to turn a tiger into a servile donkey.

“So he has intensified his efforts to make you into a man.”

“More like a beast. Like him.”

I realised that I needed to step in and correct his impression of his father. A man will always look to his father as his example of what a man is, and if he focuses only on the negatives, chances are he will stick to that as his understanding his place and role in the world. This was going to be sticky for me because I really do see his father as a beast. He got my girlfriend pregnant and married her because she had no options available to her. Her life has been one complaint to me about him after another. He was really into ‘spreading the love’.

“Look, you know that is not true. Your convictions at this time are more emotional than logical. Stop thinking like a woman.”

He turned to me with hurt in his eyes and I felt terrible, but I needed to rescue him before he forgot what we were talking about.

“I’m sorry. I know I can’t take those words back, but you need to be a man and see things as they actually are. Even a beast has a measure of pity, and I am sure he has shown some pity or care towards you. But you might not have been looking for it. Every man goes through this. It is nothing uncommon to the experience of men. Let me share this story with you. It will help you recognise the need to be more alert around your father. Stop looking at him anticipating the worst from him. Few men are all beast. Even the monsters in history have been caught in tender moments with the most unlikely things and people.”

“Name 3.”

“I will name one so we don’t digress. Field Marshall Idi Amin once ordered that the children from a catholic orphanage should visit him in his presidential palace. His reputation was at its height then and the kids arrived scared. He greeted them in his swimming trunks and they played with him in his swimming pool before returning to the orphanage. Till the day she died, the nun who escorted them would never say a bad thing about him after the side of him she saw.”

I saw I had his attention then I decided to share my own story with him….

REMI ( @remiolutimayin) OLUTIMAYIN is a seminal writer whose short story has been published on several journals and online platforms. He would be contribute here more often. A writer based somewhere between reality, fact, & fiction. Because of his allegedly ‘wild imagination’, he gets bored easily and so writes different genres (Thriller, drama, horror, science fiction, fantasy, and fact-based fiction).
His fantasy novella ‘Fourth Day:book 1′ was nominated ‘best series on a Nigerian blog in 2011 and will be coming out in print later in 2012.

If asked if he fears God, his favourite reply is,” I’m very curious about God and his place in the creative process.”

Rita Dominic

Akin Omotoso wins the Special Jury Award for Man on the Ground #AMAA2012

Chinedu Ikedieze presented the award for Best Child Actor #AMAA2012

#AMAA2012 Best Actress in a Leading Role goes to Rita Dominic for Shattered.

#AMAA2012 Prize for the best Actress in a leading role to be presented by Maya Gilbert, Hollywood Actress

Majid Michael has been nominated for 4 years consecutively, but this is his first win #AMAA2012

#AMAA2012 Majid Michel wins BEST ACTOR in a Leading Role for his performance in Somewhere in Africa

#AMAA2012 Prize for the Best Actress in a Supporting Role; and the winner is Terry Pheto (How to Steal 2 Million)

#AMAA2012 To present the awards for the best actress in a supporting role and the best actor in a leading role is Lynn Whitfield

Dr Oba Otudeko to present the #AMAA2012 Award for Best Actor in a Supporting Role

2face has perfectly get the job done as the whole house is on their feet, great performance #AMAA2012

#AMAA2012 Tuface praying for everyone, shouting “receive, receive”

Ghanaian Actress, Lydia Forson presents The #AMAA2012 prize for Best Young Promising Actor. And the winner is 2010 AMBON winner, Ivie

The #AMAA2012 prize for Best Child Actor goes to Tshepang Mohlomi (South Africa)

The #AMAA2012 award for Best Film in an African Language goes to State of Violence(South Africa).

And the #AMAA2012 award for Best Film goes to Adesuwa (Nigeria).

The #AMAA2012 prize for Achievement in Screenplay goes to ‘Ties that Bind’ (Ghana)

The beautiful and amazing Nigerian singer ASA is taking us to #AMAA2012 heaven with her live band.

And the award for Best Editing goes to ‘How to Steal 2 million’ (South Africa).

Tosin Otudeko presents The #AMAA2012 award for Achievement in Cinematography and the award goes to Othello Burning (South Africa)

The #AMAA2012 award for Best film for Acheivement in Sound is ‘State of Violence’ #AMAA2012”

The #AMAA2012 award for Best Visual Effect goes to Adesuwa (Nigeria)

Olisa Adibua of the Beat 99.9 and Storm 360 presents Achievement in soundtrack #AMAA2012. And the award goes to Alero’s Symphony (Nigeria)

59 nominations for Nigeria. 45 for South Africa. 19 for Ghana. 14 for Ghana. #AMAA2012

@nsenile spotted wearing a black floor length velvet dress from House of Nwocha. We love the Didi. Totally stands out.

@Nsenile

Veteran actor Kate Henshaw presents the #AMAAawards for Best Makeup in a Film and the award goes to ‘Shattered (Kenya)

The #AMAA2012 Achievement for Costume Design presented by Barr Grace Egbagbe goes to Adesuwa (Nigeria)

Phone Swap wins the #AMAA2012 award for Achievement in Production Design presented by the beautiful Funmi Iyanda.

#AMAA2012 Prize for the best film from an African Living Abroad goes to Mystery of Birds(UK/Nigeria)

Veteran Nigerian producer, Zeb presents the #AMAA2012 award for ‘Best Animation’ which goes to Kenya

Music break with EDGE #AMAA2012

Zik Zulu from South Africa presents the award for ‘Best Diaspora Short Film’ and the award goes to White Sugar in a black pot (USA)

Nigeria actor, Emeka Ossai presents The #AMAA2012 for ‘Best Prize Diaspora Feature’ and The ‘Best Diaspora Documentary’

Senator Florence Ita Giwa presents the #AMAA2012 the award for ‘Best documentary’ and the winner is “African Elections – Nigeria/Germany

And the ‘Best short film’ for the #AMAA2012 goes to ‘Braids on a bald head’ – Nigeria. First award for the night.

The guests for the #AMAA2012 are Morris Chestnut, Maya Gilbert, Lynn Whitfield, Rockmond Dunbar amongst others…

Jimmy Jean – Louis introduces our Hollywood guests and Morris Chestnut is on the list…. More to come.

“Its been a long journey and we are still growing. Its all about celebrating Africa” – — @PmoPeace #AMAA2012

The #AMAA2012 hosted by the Haiti born Jimmy Jean-Louis and Nigerian actor OC Ukeje…… The #AMAA2012 jury is introduced..

The 2012 African Movie Academy Awards taking place LIVE at the Expo Hall of the Eko Hotel and Suites, Lagos. We will be tweeting the winners

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Vibrators: They hold a special place in our hearts, Just maybe and in our night stands, now alot common that it was with African women tha it was years ago . But is your man intimidated by your battery-powered best friend or eager to bring it in for a threesome? We would want to know, Men: “What do you think about vibrators?” Please say in the comment box.

A Woman and you use a vibrator? click here & share your story

by Arielle Loren

When I first met my vibrator, I was twenty years old, looking to enhance my art of masturbation, and add more power to my orgasms. I had been touching myself since I was 11, mainly with my fingers and occasional objects. But I had never experienced a deep orgasm until the second time I had sex, and it felt like all the energy being built in my vagina dispersed to every cell in my anatomy. It was an intense feeling I could never seem to get myself to again without a sexual partner, but I kept hearing how women were experiencing similar types of orgasms through vibrating toys.

With a guy I was dating, I went to a sex shop and he purchased my first vibrating rabbit dildo, which was followed by a vibrating “pelvic floor” massager gifted by the host of a media appearance I did. Both toys had multiple vibration settings, and when applied to my clitoris, I’d feel powerful orgasms shoot through my body within seconds, matching many of the sensations I’d felt with my sexual partners.

I was addicted.

I’d go to work, come home, and play with my toys. I’d still have sex with the guy I was dating, but all of the sudden it became a simple “option” instead of a necessity to fulfill my sexual urges. I learned how liberating masturbation really could be for women. And I reveled in my newfound power to get myself off in a powerful way.

But there was one thing; I noticed that the initial vibration settings that I used when I first got my vibrator were no longer enough to “get me off.” I found myself increasing the power of each toy’s vibration until I eventually hit the maximum setting. Otherwise, I wouldn’t get the same powerful orgasm that I was addicted to feeling. And that was a problem.

As a sexuality writer, I read a lot of literature and research on sex. And when I really dove into learning more about the clitoris’ anatomy and how many nerves women really have down there, I realized that the power of vibrators might be great for providing powerful orgasmic shocks but they also numb some of our nerves after repeated use.

What I was feeling in terms of needing stronger vibrations to get my orgasmic fix was my nerves getting number to touch. Now I needed strong, powerful finger strokes or vibrations to get my juices flowing, when before I only needed a light rub, tongue tickle, or touch by my partner.

So I decided to take a break from using my toys. And eventually, my addiction faded. I began to only use them maybe once or twice a month. I focused on getting my clitoris and vaginal sensations responsive again to light touches and mere thoughts. Now, I’m at a place where I feel more sensitive in that area than ever. And I’m not willing to lose it.

I had an orgasm recently from my fingers gently stroking my clitoris, and my body shook like someone took me by the shoulders and was trying to shake me awake from the dead. It was that powerful. I realized that I didn’t need my toys. And that natural masturbation can give you just as much pleasure as vibrators if you take the time to train and focus on your senses down there.

It’s official. I’m breaking up with my vibrator.

Do you use vibrators to frequently masturbate? Or do you find it better to solely depend on your hands and non-vibrating objects? Speak on it.

MTN

In its continued commitment to facilitating the richer life in all its ramifications, MTN unarguably the nation’s widest telecommunications network is offering a first of its kind in terms of aid and assistance
to start-ups and small businesses. Tagged the MTN Budding Entrepreneur Business Grant, its aim is to see the dreams of still budding businesses come to full bloom and fruition. The grant sum which comes to the tune of 30 million naira will be given to the 3 best ideas at the MTN Leadership seminar which is to take place from the 24th -27th April 2012 in Lagos and Port-Harcourt with the brightest idea of them
all also getting a 6 month mentorship program with Dr Farrah Gray – world renowned businessman, investor, philanthropist, author, syndicated columnist, and motivational speaker.
MECHANICS

• Participation is open to all Registered MTN customers under the age of 40 as at 30/04/12.

• To register, participants are required to fill in the application form and send their business ideas via the www.mtnonline.com/leadership.

•  The business ideas will be screened and shortlisted participants will be invited for presentation before a panel which will sit at Lagos, Abuja and Port Harcourt. Shortlisted participants will be contacted for the live presentations.

•  The best 12 ideas will be shortlisted.

• The 12 finalists will be assisted to package their business plan in partnership with credible associations.

• Dr. Farrah Gray will then review the 12 business ideas and pick the winning ideas

• The winner of the best idea will receive N20m and 6 Months mentoring from Dr. Farrah Gray.

•  The next 2 best ideas will receive N5m each to start up and or enhance their business.